When you are out of work, feeling like a loser—after applying at jobs because your current job only gives you three hours a week, if you are lucky—due to the “economy,” you try to be confident.
What is ridiculous is when the man you are divorcing tells you to listen to what he says, do what he says, even wear what he says, and demands what he states. It is like playing, “Simon Says.”
Playing this game with your soon to be ex-husband is stupid. His orders of , “Simon Says,” is only a manipulation. Especially when he brought me into my room, of my house, and picked out the clothes for me to wear and my shoes; I am clueless. He did not even tell me what was going on, or what the plan was.
My orders demanded, “Just do what I say.”
When I was a child, yes, I played this game. Today, I continue to play this game with my kids, but why continue playing it with my ex-husband, who’s only intentions were to get his way? He controls where I apply because the places I have tried are hiring, just not hiring me. He controls the money still because I have not taking him off the accounts. He does not even pay child support. He controls everything.
My 13-year-old even made the comment, “Mom, I hate this. We might as well move back in with him. You’re doing what he wants.”
The look on my son’s face said it all. His words were sarcastic.
Yes. My son was right. That is my down fall. I guess this does make me a looser. I cannot say, “No,” to my ex-husband. I cannot tell him to leave my house when he comes over and stays until he is ready to go home.
What is it with women like me? Why can we not simply say, “NO!”
How hard is it?